Why WE are sometimes our own worst enemy: The story of Ibiza Bob.

24 Feb

A chance meeting with an old school friend inspired me to write this, I won’t name him but I shall give him a nickname and from this day forward he shall forever be known as Ibiza Bob.

It had been many years since I had last seen Ibiza Bob but last summer I bumped into him while walking through town. We got chatting, he noticed I had caught the sun and asked where I had been, I told him that I had been to Ibiza for ten days. ‘Oh larvvly’ he said while lighting up the second cigarette of our chat ‘A place I’ve always wanted to go to.’

‘Well you should, it’s a great place.’ I said. The conversation took an interesting turn. While chatting about Ibiza and holidays he explained to me that he had never been abroad, he always wanted to but couldn’t afford it. He really wanted to go to Ibiza, the Club capital of the world since our ‘clubbing days’.  

He went on to tell me how it was the Governments fault that he couldn’t afford to go. Too many taxes, (I agree) lack of proper jobs, he was under paid blah blah blah. I know times can be hard for some people but please keep reading.

‘So what do you do for fun?’ I asked, surely he hasn’t spent most of his adult life locked away in his room. He sparked up another cigarette and told me about the ‘reet boozy doos’ he has ‘down t’pub with his mates’ every Wednesday, Thursday, Friday evenings, and the full day sessions on a Saturday and Sunday. Something we did together years ago, I stopped many years back, and he has still been going strong ever since!

That is five nights including two days of drinking and smoking followed up by the must have pizza or kebab. No wonder he couldn’t afford to go abroad! The Government and their taxes didn’t stop him from going to the pub.

Now everyone has the right to enjoy what they enjoy and the point of this story is not to tell people what to do or not do but I have to ask, did he really want to go to Ibiza? The only real reason he hasn’t been is because he hasn’t pursued it or changed his habits so that he could eventually go. I wanted to go, and I have, several times.

Twenty two years have passed since I and ‘Ibiza Bob left school, so it is roughly nineteen years since we went clubbing like we did. How can he have not scraped enough money to go in nineteen years?

I didn’t ask how much he would spend each evening out, but I can tell you this, had he decided to stay in one of those nights, say Wednesday for example, if he just saved £20 an evening (a night of beer, fags and a kebab normally costs far more than that!) over the course of the year he would have saved £1040.

Enough for a trip to Ibiza perhaps? Imagine what he could have saved if he had put the money he would normally spend into a jar from one night over nineteen years!

The reason I write this post is this; the world seems to be full of people like ‘Ibiza Bob’ (maybe non Ibiza Bob is a more apt name) Complaining that their lives are somehow stunted by ‘other peoples’ actions. Like the Government with their high taxes and funding cuts, but in reality what is really often holding us back is us, plain and simple.

Who has been frustrated that they didn’t get round to doing something they really wanted to do, but somehow managed to sit in front of the TV for several hours watching the same mind numbing rubbish as the previous week?  (I am guilty of this one- Andi the Minion)

I had a terrible addiction to re watching Star Trek and Stargate re runs. Strangely they end the same way as the last ten times I watched them. I even knew what was going to happen!

We can be very short sighted, it is easier to see the faults of others but not our own.  We are creatures of habit, doing things without questioning whether it is good for us or hindering our growth and prosperity.

Just being aware and changing one or two small things can have an immense impact on the quality of our lives?  So is there something that you can change to make your life better, stop watching the tenth repeat of ‘Family Guy’ and learn some new skill? Perhaps one less evening out could save money towards that dream holiday? Or maybe you could stop smoking and use the money to fund a new part time work from home business? That one could change your life for the better!

Andi the Minion


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